Making Over Our Partners

''A relationship, in the truest sense of the word, means relating to another.

Usually when we say that we relate to someone, it is because we’ve found common ground.

But part of relating is finding ways to make ideas that seem different come together.

So often when we choose relationships, we try to fit another person into our predetermined ideal.

When they don’t fit perfectly, we may try to make them over, creating our own vision from the raw material they’ve brought.

But unless someone asks for guidance and direction, entering into a relationship with someone we want to change is dishonest.

Then our relationship becomes with someone we’ve imagined, and anytime our partner steps outside of that imaginary projection, we will be disappointed.

An honest relationship is one in which we accept each other as whole individuals, and find a way to share our life experiences together.

Then, whenever we want, we can choose as a couple to give the relationship a makeover by renewing the  way we interact.

By wanting to give another person a makeover, we are basically saying we don’t accept them for who they are.

If we take a moment to imagine the roles reversed, we can get a sense of how it would feel if our beloved only committed to us because they thought we were, or would become, someone else entirely.

In such an environment, we are not relating to each other from a real place, and we are keeping ourselves from being able to learn and grow from the different viewpoints that our partners offer.

If we feel that a change is needed in our relationship, the only makeover that we truly have the power to make is on ourselves.

By accepting our partners for exactly who they are—the ideal and the not-so-ideal—we will create an energetic shift in our relationships, and we may find ourselves really appreciating our partners for the first time.

Working from within, we determine how we relate to the people and the world around us, and when we can accept it and embrace it all, without conditions, we make every act of relating a positive one.''

(DailyOm, Scott Blum)

Dealing with disappoitment

''Whenever we do something in life with an expectation of how we’d like it to turn out, we risk experiencing disappointment.

When things don’t go the way we had envisioned, we may feel a range of emotions from slightly let down to depressed or even angry.

We might direct our feelings inward toward ourselves, or outward toward other people or the universe in general.

Whether we feel disappointed by ourselves, a friend, or life in general, disappointment is always a tough feeling to experience.

Still, it is a natural part of life, and there are many ways of dealing with it when we find ourselves in its presence.

As with any feeling, disappointment has come to us for a reason, and we don’t need to fear acknowledging it or feeling it.

The more we are able to accept how we are feeling and process it, the sooner we will move into new emotional territory.

As we sit down to allow ourselves to feel our disappointment, we might want to write about the experience of being disappointed—the situation that preceded it, what we were hoping would happen, and what did happen.

The gift of disappointment is its ability to bring us into alignment with reality so that we don’t get stuck for too long in the realm of how things might have been.

As we consider other disappointments in our life and how we have moved past them, we may even see that in some cases what happened was actually better in the long run than what we had wanted to happen.

Disappointment often leaves us feeling deflated with its message that things don’t always turn out the way we want.

The beauty of disappointment, though, is that it provides us a bridge to its other side where the acceptance of reality, wisdom, and the energy to begin again can be found.''

(Daily Om, Scott Blum)

Being present at work

''Being present at work begins before we even go to our place of employment.

It starts with our intention to bring consciousness into everything we do, including those activities we do for money.

Whether you are a secretary who files papers all day, a janitor who cleans the local high school, or a nurse caring for children, there is much to be gained by fully engaging in the tasks at hand.

When you decide to bring your presence into your work activities, you may find that the entire experience of working is filled with new energy and life.

Sometimes we believe that when we step through the doors of our workplace, we cease being ourselves and start being someone else’s employee.

Though our employer may depend on us to perform certain tasks, the truth is that we never stop being ourselves.

The commitment to being a conscious, empowered person of integrity doesn’t stop and start with a time clock.

Our decision to be present for our own lives is what weaves together all of our experiences from the moment we wake up, throughout our entire workday, and to the moment we turn off the lights at night.

Before leaving for work today, you can clear your energy and choose to step out with your best foot forward.

Setting an intention in the morning can even help you stay present as your day unfolds.

You might decide to find joy in every activity, complete all of your projects on time, or be truly helpful to your coworkers.

By being fully present, you will begin to radiate and people may begin to notice; they may even want to follow your lead.

Whether you run a company or hold a sign outside a deli, do it with pride and be the best you can be.''

(Scott Blum, DailyOm) 

changing roles

''As we bob and weave with the ebb and flow of life our roles change, but our true self remains constant.

As spiritual beings having a human experience, we go through many aspects of humanity in one lifetime.

Living in the material world of opposites, labels, and classifications, we often identify ourselves by the roles we play, forgetting that these aspects shift and change throughout our lives.

But when we anchor ourselves in the truth of our being, that core of spirit within us, we can choose to embrace the new roles as they come, knowing that they give us fresh perspective on life and a greater understanding of the lives of others.

As children, we anticipated role changes eagerly in our rush to grow up.

Though fairy tales led us to believe that “happily ever after” was a final destination, the truth is that life is a series of destinations, mere stops on a long journey filled with differing terrain.

We may need to move through a feeling of resistance as we shift from spouse to parent, leader to subordinate, caregiver to receiver, or even local to newcomer.

It can be helpful to bid a fond farewell to the role that we are leaving before we welcome the new.
This is the purpose of ceremonies in cultures throughout the world and across time.

We can choose from any in existence or create our own to help us celebrate our life shifts and embrace our new adventures.

Like actors on the stage of the world, our different roles are just costumes that we inhabit and then shed.

Each role we play gives us another perspective through which to understand ourselves and the nature of the universe.

When we take a moment to see that each change can be an adventure, a celebration, and a chance to play a new part, we may even be able to recapture the joyful anticipation of our youth as we transition from one role to the next.''

(DailyOm, Scott Blum)

floating amidst the stars

''Since the beginning of time, humans have gazed at the stars in the night sky with awe, seeking in their luminosity everything from answers to inspiration to guidance.

We have emerged from our contemplations with stories of gods and goddesses, maps of the universe, astrology, astronomy, math, and art.

We have worshipped, wondered, and even projected ourselves out into space in an attempt to understand their magical essence.

We know more now than we ever have about what those celestial lights are, how far away they reside, and what will happen to them over time, but facts and information are still no substitute for experiencing them yourself.

Gazing at the stars is no doubt one of the earliest forms of meditation practiced by human beings, and it is readily available to this day.

If you live in a city, you may have a hard time seeing the stars, but a short drive can take you far enough beyond the city lights to reveal their glory.

If you live in a rural setting, all you have to do is wait for the sun to set and the night to settle to get the show of your life, every night.

If you make a habit of it, you will begin to know the seasonal changes of the night sky, deepening your connection to the earth and the universe in which you live.

One of the best ways to stargaze is to lie down on a blanket so that your body can fully relax.
This position allows your breath to move easily through your tranquil form as you settle down into the earth, connecting your consciousness to the sky.

As you look deeply into its vastness, allowing your awareness to alternate between the pinpoints of light and the blue-black space that holds them, your breath expands and contracts your body, just as the universe expands and contracts to its own eternal rhythm.

You may feel as if you are floating amidst the stars or that they are raining down upon you.
You may feel peacefulness, joy, and connectedness, or any of a full range of emotions.

Simply continue to breathe, experiencing the wonder of this universe and your place within it.''

(DailyOm, Scott Blum)

next stop- nirvana!! ou o pensamento profundo do dia...

!a laugh a day, keeps your mind sane!

the little boy

o final, na versão original do poema de Helen Buckley (1961)

(...)

The teacher said:
"Today we are going to make a picture."
"Good!" thought the little boy.
And he waited for the teacher
To tell what to do.
But the teacher didn't say anything.
She just walked around the room.

When she came to the little boy
She asked, "Don't you want to make a picture?"
"Yes," said the lttle boy.
"What are we going to make?"
"I don't know until you make it," said the teacher.
"How shall I make it?" asked the little boy.
"Why, anyway you like," said the teacher.
"And any color?" asked the little boy.
"Any color," said the teacher.
"If everyone made the same picture,
And used the same colors,
How would I know who made what,
And which was which?"
"I don't know," said the little boy.
.And he began to make pink and orange and blue flowers.

He liked his new school,
Even if it didn't have a door
Right in from the outside!

Universal timing

''Nature’s natural rhythms orchestrate when day turns to night, when flowers must bloom, and provides the cue for when it is time for red and brown leaves to fall from trees.

As human beings, our own inner rhythm is attuned to this universal sense of timing.

Guided by the rising and setting of the sun, changes in temperature, and our own internal rhythm, we know when it is time to sleep, eat, or be active.

While our minds and spirits are free to focus on other pursuits, our breath and our heartbeat are always there to remind us of life’s pulsing rhythm that moves within and around us.

Moving to this rhythm, we know when it is time to stop working and when to rest.

Pushing our bodies to work beyond their natural rhythm diminishes our ability to renew and recharge. 

A feeling much like jet lag lets us know when we’ve overridden our own natural rhythm.

When we feel the frantic calls of all we want  to accomplish impelling us to move faster than is natural for us, we may want to breathe deeply instead and look at nature moving to its own organic timing: birds flying south, leaves shedding, or snow falling. 

A walk in nature can also let us re-attune is to her organic rhythm, while allowing us to move back in time with our own.

When we move to our natural rhythm, we can achieve all we need to do with less effort. 
 
We may even notice that our soul moves to its own internal, natural rhythm – especially when it comes to our personal evolution. 

Comparing ourselves to others is unnecessary. 

Our best guide is to move to our own internal timing, while keeping time with the rhythm of nature.''


(Daily Om, Scott Blum)

Doing our best

''We often come into contact with the idea that our best isn’t good enough, as if this were actually possible.

If you examine this notion, you will begin to see that it doesn’t make much sense. Your best is always good enough, because it comes from you, and you are always good enough.

You may not be able to deliver someone else’s idea of the best, but the good news is that’s not your burden.

You only need to fulfill your own potential, and as long as you remain true to that calling, and always do your best to fulfill your purpose, you don’t need to expect anything more from yourself.

It’s easy to get tangled up with the idea of trying to be the best—the best parent, the best employee, the best child, or best friend.

If we try to be the best, we run the risk of short-circuiting our originality because we are striving to fit into someone else’s vision of success.

In addition, if everyone is striving for the same outcome, we lose out on creativity, diversity, and visionary alternatives to the way things are done.

On another note, there is nothing wrong with wanting to improve, but examining where this feeling comes from is important because wanting to be better than others is our ego coming into play.

Letting go of the tendency to hold ourselves up to other people’s standards, and letting go of the belief that we need to compete and win, doesn’t mean we don’t believe in doing the best job we can.

We always strive to do our best, because when we do we create a life free of regret, knowing we have performed to the best of our ability.

This allows us to feel great personal satisfaction in all of our efforts, regardless of how others perceive the outcome. ''

(Daily Om, Scott Blum)

Connection

''Picking a leaf off the ground and contemplating it as an object in and of itself is very inspiring. 

Its shape and color, the way it feels in your hand, its delicate veins and the stem that once held it fast to the branch of a tree—all of these qualities reveal a leaf to be a miniature work of natural art. 

As we contemplate this small object more deeply and consider where it came from and what purpose it has served, we find that the leaf is one small but essential part of a system that harnesses the energy of the sun, plumbs the depths of the earth, and in the process brings into being the oxygen many living things rely on to live.
A leaf transforms the elements of its environment—sunlight, carbon dioxide, rain—into nourishment for its tree. 

This beautiful, nearly weightless, ephemeral piece of nature is a vital conduit to the branch that is a conduit to the trunk that is a conduit to the roots of the tree. 

The roots, in turn, draw nourishment from the earth to feed the trunk, the branches, and the leaves. 

The living beings that inhale the oxygen that comes from this process exhale the carbon dioxide that feeds the leaves through which the tree is fed. 

It is difficult to know where one cycle ends and another one begins.

One of the many gifts that nature offers us is a clear demonstration of the interdependence between all living things. 

The person who exhales the carbon dioxide, the clouds that produce the rain, the sun that gives light, the leaf that transforms all these things into sustenance for a tree—not one of these could survive without being part of this cycle.

Each living being is dependent upon other living things for its survival. 

When we look at the world, we see that this is not a place where different beings survive independently of one another. 

Earth is home to a web of living things that are connected to each other through a spinning kaleidoscope of relationships.  

We need each other to survive and thrive¡

(DailyOm, Scott Blum)

allow

Returning to Creative Dreams

''As children, many of us entertained fantasies or even goals of being an actor, singer, dancer, artist, or musician.

In some cases, we received enough encouragement to develop our abilities in those creative arenas, but somewhere along the way we stopped.

This stopping may have been due to circumstances beyond our control or to our own unconscious acts of self-sabotage.

Being creative can be scary in a world that seems to value logic over imagination and practicality over dreaming.

We can forgive ourselves for shutting down or turning our attention away from our inner artist, but perhaps we can also take steps to reclaim our dreams.

In certain times and places, developing a creative ability was considered an important part of being a well-rounded human being.

It was not necessary to be a professional or a masterly genius, because the act of creativity was valued in and of itself.

It gifts are manifold—from the sheer pleasure of allowing our imaginations free reign to sharing and enjoying the fruits of our labor.

Children share drawings and songs freely, without self-consciousness, and there is no reason why we cannot do the same thing.

You may already be remembering some lost form of expression, such as making jewelry or writing songs.

Your soul may be responding with an energetic lift as it feels its way back to a time when it was allowed to express itself freely.

Your brain, on the other hand, may be throwing up obstacles, like the idea that you are too old or do not have the time.

The truth is, you are not too old, and if you have time to pick up a pen, you have time to make a doodle or write a haiku.

Recognize that the obstacles you find before you have arisen from a place of fear and that they will wane in power every time you do something creative.

Each creative act takes you deeper into a realm of beauty and magic, a realm that you have every right to return to and reclaim.''

(Daily Om, Scott Blum)

O que é o Transpessoal?

''O que é o Transpessoal? O conceito Transpessoal tem as suas origens na Psicologia TranspessoalEsta é um novo ramo da Psicologia, que surgiu como um desdobramento ou evolução da
Psicologia Humanista, cujo representante mais conhecido será, porventura, Abraham Maslow.
Alguns autores consideram-na como a "quarta força" ou "escola", em Psicologia, após o
behaviourismo-cognitivismo, psicanálise e psicologia humanista, integrando todas estas. Tem
raízes no existencialismo, no humanismo e na fenomenologia, encontrando subsídios nos mais
recentes conceitos da física moderna, neurobiologia e informática. A Psicologia Transpessoal foi
oficializada em 1968, nos Estados Unidos da América por Abraham Maslow, Viktor Frankl,
Stanislav Grof e James Fadiman. As associações de profissionais liberais, predominantemente
médicos e psicólogos, que se interessam pela Psicologia Transpessoal passaram a admitir
profissionais de outros saberes, que aderiram aos pressupostos daquela corrente da psicologia e a
sua designação reduziu-se à substantivação da palavra Transpessoal.


A definição de (Psicologia) Transpessoal tem sofrido alterações, embora persista um núcleo
comum de referências ao longo do tempo - pressupostos ontológicos, teorização do "Self", valores
perenes e potenciais evolutivos, estados (modificados) de consciência (EMC) e bem-estar biopsico-
social, integrando também a dimensão espiritual. Nas definições iniciais apresentava-se
como um movimento (com vivências ou experiências transpessoais, aplicações clínicas e sociais e
investigação específica), que estava para "além dos objectivos egóicos e estabelece a ponte entre
práticas psicológicas e espirituais, tendendo a satisfazer a busca de um crescimento espiritual, até
uma directa percepção do divino". De um ponto de vista psicoterapêutico a "sua essência reside
nas atitudes terapeuta, nas experiências transpessoais nas quais o paciente é o seu próprio
terapeuta".


O movimento Transpessoal, pretende o bem-estar bio-psico-emocional-social-cultural-espiritual,
de acordo com o processo evolutivo da pessoa, usando preferencialmente os estados modificados
de consciência em vígilia nos quais a pessoa (ou paciente) é o seu próprio terapeuta, integrando os
conhecimentos das tradições orientais (xamanismo, meditação, etc.) e ocidentais (experiências
místicas, de quase-morte, hipnose, sonho acordado, psicodislpticas, etc.) sobre aqueles estados
com os obtidos pela ciência moderna. No campo da Psicologia Transpessoal, está é a

área da

psicologia que estuda os estados modificados de consciência e os fenómenos, de qualquer tipo,
com eles relacionados

(sua psicofisiologia e as experiências humanas excepcionais ou

diferenciadas, que decorrem da aplicação terapêutica). Trata-se de uma definição pragmática, para
iniciar trabalhos inter e transdisciplinares no meio académico. Refira-se que numa análise de
conteúdo de definições nos últimos 23 anos, feita por Lajoie & Shapiro em 1992, estes autores
propunham um consenso:

ocupa-se odo estudo do mais elevado potencial da humanidade e com o

reconhecimento, compreensão e realização de estados de consciência unitivos espirituais e
transcendentes.''

Prof. Doutor Mário Simões – Prof. Psiquiatria Universidade de Lisboa – Portugal

Co-fundador da Alubrat – Portugal / Brasil

Interesting people everywhere

''It’s easy to forget sometimes that everyone has a story to tell if we take the time to listen.

We are so accustomed to hearing the stories of people in the news that we sometimes lose track of the fact that the random stranger on the bus also has a fascinating story about where they came from and how they got to be where they are.

The sheer variety of paths taken in this world, from farmers to CEOs to homeless people to world travelers, is indicative of how much we can learn from each individual.

Sometimes the shy, quiet person at work has the most amazing life story and the biggest dreams, it is up to us to take the time to find out.

Some people travel a path of wealth and privilege, while others struggle with only themselves to rely on, and both have great stories to tell.

Each person learns lessons, makes choices, and develops a unique perspective, which only they can claim and share.

Even two people who have had very similar lives will have slightly different experiences, leading them to a different point of view, so each person remains a treasure trove waiting to be explored.

When we take the time to ask questions and listen, we find that every person has a fascinating story to tell and an utterly unique perspective from which to tell it.

Bearing this in mind, we have the opportunity to approach the world around us in a new way.

There is never any reason to be bored at a party, or on the bus, or in a conversation with a stranger.

When we retain the spark of curiosity and the warmth required to open someone up, we always have in front of us the makings of a great story.

All we have to do is ask. ''

(DailyOm, Scott Blum)

quinta dimensão

 

quinta dimensão

Hoje ou ontem, tal como amanhã

por entre o negrume da vida que nasce noite,
haverá lugar espaço momento, ponto fixo
e em perpétuo e firme movimento.
Haverá lugar, de encontro na fenda agreste
de um lamento, à língua, saliva ou pacho
que tape alise deslace, pele pano ou queixume.
Haverá espaço, do encantamento à alegria justa
clara e férrea sedenta de lar, de vida.
Haverá momento, sem vergonha prenhe de medo,
hirto, que esbarre e escorra, em má e triste hora.
Haverá ponto, prefixo humano deveras perdido
aflito, que se agarre e sucumba à oração que engana.

Amanhã ou ontem, tal como hoje agora,
há um ponto perpétuo e firme
pueril superfície interna em movimento
que deveras resgata e salva.





(Ousadias , pag 52)

Remember the light side

''Often when we talk about fun, or doing things just for fun, we talk about it in a dismissive way as if fun isn’t important.

We tend to value hard work and seriousness, and we forget to pay our respects to the equally important, light side of silliness and laughter.

This is ironic because we all know the feeling of euphoria that follows a good burst of laughter, and how it leaves us less stressed, more openhearted, and more ready to reach out to people.

We are far more likely to walk down the street smiling and open after we’ve had a good laugh, and this tends to catch on, inspiring smiles from the people we pass who then positively influence everyone they encounter.

Witnessing this kind of chain reaction makes you think that having fun might be one of our most powerful tools for changing the world.

Laughter is good medicine, and we all have this medicine available to us whenever we recall a funny story or act in a silly way.

We magnify the effects of this medicine when we share it with the people in our lives.

If we are lucky, they will have something funny to share with us as well, and the life-loving sound of laughter will continue to roll out of our mouths and into the world.

Of course, it is also important to allow ourselves to be serious and to honor that side of ourselves so that we stay balanced.

After a great deal of merriment, it can actually be a pleasure to settle down and focus on work, or take some time for introspection until our next round of fun begins.''

(Daily Om, Scott Blum)

água

Water: The drop of life from Daniel Gallenkamp N.S.C.

Pureza*Respeito*Tranquilidade*Harmonia